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Masculinity: Inner Boy to Inner King


There’s few words in our culture right now that provoke such intense emotion.

On the one hand, hardly a week goes by without breaking news of powerful men acting horribly and abusively, particularly towards women. In offices, in media, in Hollywood, women are calling out these forms of toxic masculinity that objectify women, denigrate the feminine, dominate the powerless, and glorify abusive power. Time’s up on this monstrosity of manhood.

On the other hand, there is a growing sense that many men - particularly young men - are feeling spiritually lost, emotionally confused, directionless, and powerless. So many boys grow up with a dire lack of positive male role models, rarely seeing adult men act with compassion, consistency, or conscience. These boys are given no road map to manhood other than the ones given to them by immature peers and an even more immature culture. One need only consider that men die by suicide 3.5 times more than women to know that something is profoundly lacking in the modern masculine soul.

The writings of Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette on masculine psychology & masculine archetypes have profoundly influenced and healed my own relationship to masculinity. In their classic work “King Warrior Magician Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine”, they write:

“In our view, patriarchy is not the expression of the deep and rooted masculine, for truly deep and rooted masculinity is not abusive. Patriarchy is the expression of the immature masculine. It is the expression of Boy psychology and the shadow side of masculinity. It expresses the stunted masculine, fixated at immature levels.”

I’ve come to believe that masculinity is a force for good in this world - but only if it is conscious, only if it is awake, only if men are connected to the deep and rooted masculine, not the psychology of wounded boys. Thankfully, there are road maps to this mature form of masculinity to be found in spirituality, mythology, and depth psychology. There IS a path to a better form of masculinity. I want to help more men begin to walk this path.

In my work as a spiritual life coach, I feel deeply called to work with men who are ready to make the journey into deep and rooted masculinity, from Inner Boy to Inner King. By doing this work, they have the potential not only to transform their own lives, but to set things right in a world beset by immature forms of masculinity.

If you are a man ready to do this work, I’m offering free introductory calls to any man out there who wants to learn about my work as a life coach and how I can support his path towards personal growth & conscious masculinity. Message me today if you are interested.


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